Men, Your Inner Belief System Can Ruin An Evening Out.
Posted: Tuesday, October 06, 2009
by Rob Gordon
Think about this for a moment, if I believe that, I cannot do a particular task then the chances are that I will not be able to do that task at all well. This is called limiting belief.
Take a moment to try this, carefully! Stand up (or sit if you cannot stand) and point your feet forward. Now without moving your feet swing your upper body around as far as is comfortable and note where you are looking in the room.
Now, repeat the exercise. Again, with your feet facing forward (and your eyes open) swing around as far as you can comfortably and note where you can see in the room. Most people can swing round 25% further than before.
So what happened? If you could swing round further than before it shows you had a limiting belief about how far your body could swing round and when you imagined it going further than ever before you destroyed that limiting belief and were able to do something more than before. This, of course, is a simple example with little or no impact on your lives. However, things get more serious when limiting beliefs affect our relationships.
If you are single at the moment and looking for a relationship, what is stopping you? Is it external circumstances or is it your inner limiting beliefs? I am too short, I am too fat, I am too tall, I am not good-looking etc.
Many men, particularly in the post breakup period, lack the confidence to start to speak to a woman that they like. Their inner limiting beliefs come to the surface and take away their confidence. So what can you do to overcome the anxiety?
One very simple technique I use (and use in many areas of my life)
The Feel Good Button (read the instructions before starting)
- Close your eyes and imagine a time in your life when you felt extremely confident. It does not matter what the situation was just that you felt extremely confident about what you were doing. If that is not possible, think about a famous person, you admire and see them in a confident situation.
- Now really feel that inside. Feel that confidence growing. Now double that feeling it may be that you see that as light, or hear sound or feel energy it does not matter as long as you increase that feeling.
- Now as that confident feeling gets strong push your thumb and middle finger together (it does not matter which hand) and hold tightly as you keep imagining your situation where you felt confident. Hold for 3 seconds.
- Now stop pressing your finger and thumb together and open your eyes. Walk around for a moment and think of something else.
- Now repeat 2, 3, and 4 another two times.
Now each time you are feeling unconfident especially say in a bar when you want to speak to a woman that you like, before you go over, press your thumb and middle finger together and feel that confidence rush into you. Immediately go over and start to speak whilst you have the confidence and have forgotten about your limiting beliefs.
Believe me this really works if you keep using it (it will fade in time if you do not use it). It is a simple technique but can help you get over that initial anxiety that is caused by your own inner belief system. If you boost your confidence at that moment, you can overcome those fears and take action. You will soon find you do not need it any more because stating a conversation with a woman will become easy.
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Top-level comments on this article: (4 total)Thank you, Rob and Welcome to Searchwarp! I really hope you are planning to submit more articles like this one ... I have joined your class (smile). You are a great addition to our community, so don't be a stranger.Thank you so much for your kind remarks.
Good article. Reminded me of As A Man Thinketh. Thanks for sharing and welcome to Searchwarp.Thank you so much for your kind remarks.
The power of suggestion. You have an entertaining writing style and I enjoyed your article. Hope to read more of your work.
Great mental exercise and technique. Great article. Thanks for sharing.Welcome to the Searchwarp Community!Best to you and yours,Nenita
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